I know the issue of abortion is such a sensitive, heated, and (in ways) complex topic. I, in no way, wish to hurt anyone that has gone through with an abortion. And I, in no way, want to pretend I know exactly what they have been through that has pushed them to the point of even considering abortion. I truly just want to show love as I wander through this heartbreaking topic, but I have my valuable questions to ask today. These questions aren't necessarily "new", by any means, but why should we ever stop asking questions that have good, valid, powerful points concerning the rights of those who can't yet speak for themselves?
So often it is said that life has not truly started until the baby is outside of the womb (and even that is now "up in the air"). That perplexes my mind more than those moments in my life where I have stood in the night and stared into the sky wondering how many stars were above me. I simply don't understand how the question of life could exist at any point during a pregnancy. Much less, when a baby has limbs that are able to move and kick, a head that is able to turn along with eyes, and a heartbeat that is rapidly beating can be mistaken for anything other than life.
Yes, I understand that in some cases the doctors have been able to pinpoint "flaws" within the brain of the baby or even lack of a limb (whatever the case may be). My heart truly, truly goes out to situations like that. But, my question is this - do those "flaws" somehow have the power to undo what already exists and, ultimately, give us the right to make a baby void of existence by stopping his/her heartbeat?
To me, it is so incredibly difficult to grasp how a woman has the liberty to have an abortion and the baby is conveniently labeled "it" by the doctors. Yet, if that same women got into a minor car accident on her way to have the abortion and the impact of the accident caused her to go into preterm labor, the ambulance would take her straight to the hospital. All the doctors, nurses, and staff would be prepared to try to save that baby's life. All of a sudden terms and titles change. All of a sudden the baby is actually a baby. Could the mom actually say, "Oh, no! Don't save it! I wanted to abort it!" The lines have become so blurred and we are left with a smeared gray line that has become spotted with blood.
How is it that in so many states someone can be charged with a "double-homicide" if they murder a woman who was pregnant? What if that very woman wanted to have an abortion and already had a date set? Just because she wants to have an abortion the baby is once again void of life, but if someone else on a different date takes the life of that baby it's murder. Why have humans given humans this right to decide whether or not a heartbeat is valuable and constitutes life?
Excuse me, I have to end this blog earlier than expected because I need to tend to my three year old son- yep, the same son the doctors encouraged me to abort. It's difficult for me to even fathom that I was given the opportunity and the right to allow someone to rid my son of his heartbeat. It sickens me - even if I'm the one being given the right. Even if I'm the one they're trying to save. Save my life at the expense of my baby's life? How is that even an option? If a mother and her baby were in a burning building, just hours after giving birth, and the fire fighter reached out his arms to pick up the baby first, would any mom say, "Oh, no... save ME!", as she sacrificed her baby's life to save her own? It doesn't sound the same in that context does it? Why not?
To me, it was the same and I couldn't go through with any "procedure" simply to, possibly, save my own life. My son was ALIVE in my womb, possibly even hearing whispers, through the layers of skin and water, that separated him from the outside world--- whispers of medical professionals encouraging me to "terminate" my pregnancy. Oh, that skin and water that separates us from them... can't we just pretend it's not there? Can we not realize that they have their own body, heart beat, brain, purposes - each separate from their mom who is simply carrying them.... and, hopefully, caring for them.
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If anyone wants prayer concerning this or any other issue, please feel free to email me (flynigh@gmail.com). Even if you have had an abortion - you are so loved and this blog isn't meant to make you feel any different.
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